The Reunion

So I actually have a great many thoughts about the whole reunion thing, I’m still processing so I don’t know how many I’ll actually share here, but we’ll see.
I went not really knowing what to expect. The only clues I had as to how a 10 yr. reunion goes was from movies like Romy and Michelle’s H.S. Reunion and Grosse Pointe Blank, but since a bad guy gets stabbed in the neck with a ball point pen in GPB, I really didn’t think these movies were accurate representations of the real thing. For months I have had bizarre and awkward dreams about the reunion and I’d wake up all nervous thinking about it. Dreams about everyone being mean, or dreams that my teeth fell out but no one told me, weird stuff like that. Thankfully when the date finally came I was calm and it didn’t feel like it was any big deal. Instead I found myself genuinely enjoying myself and others. It really is strange to see someone every day in H.S. and then the day you graduate is the last time you see them for a decade, maybe longer. It was nice to catch up with old friends and see how much they have changed. I was surprised to find out that two of my good friends are now ripped. My buddy Mike has turned into a freakin’ body builder! And my friend Nellie who has two kids is a personal trainer. Overall I was impressed at how good most of the women looked! I thought for sure some would have porked out or lost an eye while giving birth, but most of the girls had all their eyes! It seems to be a social thing that the women have to look stunning while the men can do whatever the hell they want. Some of the guys were looking a little doughy around the middle, but for the most part I thought everyone looked nearly the same.

Even though I had squelched the fear of my teeth falling out I still had reservations about feeling 2nd best compared to some of my old classmates and the accomplishments they have done.In the end I discovered that it doesn’t really matter. Tired eyes and sad mouths broke through with tales of marriage, divorce and children. I remembered something I’ve always known but forgot en route to the reunion. Just because the duck is serene upon the lake doesn’t mean he’s not floundering underneath. That’s not to say that everyone has struggled with life to this point, many seemed to be doing wonderful and I’m happy for them. We’re just all at different places so it does no good to compare. I was still slightly sad at the end of the event. I realized that I truly did miss some of these people, and they were great friends. It seemed like the feeling was reciprocated with some. Fortunately thanks to Al Gore and the advent of the internets and cordless cellular telephones (two things that were barely around 10 years ago) I hope to keep in better contact with old friends.

It was good to see that Key, a tall eccentric asian buddy was still as random as he ever was. In the course of 5 minutes you could talk about work, traffic, CSI, tennis courts and the socioeconimic influence of corporate America on third world countries coffee bean production. With him it’s always a roller coaster ride that has no end. I found that many people had really grown out of their shells and spoke more bluntly and directly. EsoPhil flat out told me that he wanted to take martial arts again and maybe Tai Chi, but not that “exercise crap”, the real stuff. ha! Cracked me up coming from someone I’ve only known as soft spoken. Dave L. and I couldn’t believe what a good time we had, there was hardly any awkwardness during the night.

Saturday was good, my bud Tyler and his wife came even though she had just given birth 5 days prior. It was way too hot but a few people still showed up. For me, the complete surprise of the weekend was near the end of the reunion on Saturday. My driver to the park failed to mention that he had prior obligations and needed to leave early. I was not ready to go but a few friends offered me a ride so I stayed. Two of those friends were Allison and Nikki. I hadn’t talked to these girls in a decade, but we had the best time after the reunion. We talked over a wide range of topics and I was floored to find that we had so much in common. It was the proverbial cherry on top of my reunion sundae. There is nothing like the feeling of relating to someone on a whole new level and unreservedly opening yourself up to them. I loved it. Life sure is funny at times.

I can say the the whole experience was nothing like I thought it would be. I actually had fun! Social status walls were knocked down and everyone acted normal and pleasant. My teeth stayed in my head and I received several comments on how young I looked. So much so, one person kept asking me if I used facial creams or anything. The answer is no I don’t but sometimes I do remember to wash my face. I think the 20 yr. reunion will be really fun. Because by then the men will actually be filling out, balding and some of the women will look a bit haggard after raising multiple kids. Should be fun.

A few pictures for your viewing pleasure.

This picture was taken by Mike’s wife. I think we all know what was on her mind.

This is Tyler describing his wife give birth and the role he played.

Dave R. looking like he’s not sure where he is.

3 Comments »

  1. David said,

    July 27, 2006 @ 11:38 am

    Yeah, it was definitely fun getting to catch up with everyone…especially at the park where it was more kick back and do whatever. I second your observation about how the walls of status and accomplishments or whatever didn’t really come up. I sort of felt like the semi-formal dinner thing was gonna be a dress-up-nice-and-try-to-impress-everyone event, and it really didn’t feel that way, and that was great.

    The other day I saw our old VHS (what’s that?) video from grade school for our presentation on Amerigo Vespuci. And then I remembered that I don’t remember anything about Amerigo Vespuci. ;) It’s hard to believe we’ve known each other for that long…

  2. EsoPhil said,

    July 27, 2006 @ 10:01 pm

    Yeah, I mostly had fun. I’m certainly glad I went. I kinda wish I would have gone to the park, but I heard not many more people went who didn’t go to the dinner. I was too whimped out by the heat that day. I doubt I’ll ever become a T’ai Chi master - or even relatively good - but it’s a dream nonetheless ;)

  3. normaljean said,

    July 28, 2006 @ 11:06 am

    Well, your reunion sounds a million times better than mine. I’m glad you had fun. :)

    Trouble with my 10 year is that i didn’t grow up in my town, i had only spent my high school and college years there. So.. no long history with my class mates. Also, all of my friends were either younger, older, or went to the rival high school. I graduated in ‘87 and you know… i expected that they would at least play 80’s music?! And they didn’t even do that. Stupid Wyoming. The teachers were nowhere to be seen either… Oh well.

    My 20 (OMG!) is next year and i dont think i’ll be going. Unless I get rediculously famous between now and then. Come on youtube!!! ;P

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