They use fertilizer

Sitting in the bar across from my friend Jeremy we dive into a pitcher of beer and hot pizza. I haven’t seen him in months so it’s always nice to catch up. I told him how lucky he is to have a great marriage with a wonderful wife and kid. He agreed, but then told me how lucky I was to be single, out on my own and kidless. We both chuckled as it seems the grass is always greener on the other side. I long for the companionship he has and he longs for the freedom I have. He explained that even if you have a fantastic marriage you still have very little time that is ‘yours’. Suddenly your life is filled with other commitments. You have to entertain your wife’s boss for dinner or you get called over to the inlaws house to help them rearrange their furniture, your kid broke her elbow and needs to go to the E.R., y’know annoying things like that. I can see his point but it can get depressing on the freedom side of things as well. There’s no one to come home to, or to slide in next to you as you drift off to sleep, no one to serenade on the guitar or to high five when you frag somebody in Halo 2.

It’s not all bad, we both had valid points. I’ve heard it said that the grass is greener because the other side uses fertilizer. True or not I guess there is no other side. We’re all on the same grass. The trick is finding true fulfillment and happiness on your own lawn.


  1. David said,

    June 5, 2007 @ 11:09 pm

    Your conclusion is well stated.  :)  I agree.

  2. Pamela said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 6:42 am

    This is funny because a couple of weeks ago my spouse went out of town for the weekend and all the women I told who are around my age were like, “Lucky! The house to yourself, what are you going to do?” Then I remember being in my 20’s and sitting with the girls whining and crying about being alone. You’re right, the best place is to enjoy what you have.

  3. momma said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 12:41 pm

    The great philosophers have nothing on you!!

  4. Phil said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 3:37 pm

    I’ll give you high fives all night long!

  5. EsoPhil said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 8:59 pm

    Paul said it well (whether or not his life showed it - I’m sure he wasn’t perfect)… “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want.”

    Hey Paul, stop keeping secrets! Tell us the answer! Oh, he does… “I can do everything through him who gives me strength.”

  6. EsoPhil said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 9:41 pm

    Part of it is bad memory too. Journaling is sometimes good, if a person is of the sort who can tolerate/enjoy it. It’s like the Old Testament - it’s a journal of Israel’s blessings and shortcomings. They were slaves or were killed or starving, yet when God delivers them, they complain as if their previous state is completely out of sight and mind.

  7. Micah said,

    June 6, 2007 @ 10:48 pm

    you bring up good points. I’ve never been one to journal but sometimes I suppose that’s what the blog is all about. I hope it helps me become a better writer but often it’s like a journal and it’s nice to go back and see where I have come from and where I am going. It all helps me keep my own lawn trimmed and in order :)

  8. mego said,

    June 7, 2007 @ 12:14 pm

    bro, good words spoken.. enjoy the time you have now, and live in the moment.

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